tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20821605.post114055893448579587..comments2022-04-07T19:27:28.473-07:00Comments on Beating Paruresis (Shy Bladder): Can you really be cured of Shy Bladder?Shy Bladderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08215857467201190307noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20821605.post-48186007177905638152017-08-31T00:17:00.800-07:002017-08-31T00:17:00.800-07:00The breath holding technique works and I have made...The breath holding technique works and I have made a full recovery. This is my procedure. I go into oxygen debt - less breathing in as I start to approach toilet. When about 20 metres away breathe out and hold breath until diaphragm start to pulsate. Enter toilet on the 20th pulsation. On reaching urinal up to 25 or 30 pulsations have occurred. Point it and wait without forcing and stream starts automatically after about 5 seconds. Easy! Works no mater how many others are present. e.g. at the football at half time. Practice the above procedure at home first to master the feeling of the flow automatically starting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20821605.post-69667146294557784122013-03-27T03:25:38.527-07:002013-03-27T03:25:38.527-07:00I've suffered this condition since Primary sch...I've suffered this condition since Primary school. I can even remember the last time I could pee in a urinal (about 7 or 8 years old). I was peeing when another kid came rushing at me screaming really loudly with a red face and bulging eyes. This reminded me of my father who would rage before beating me. The kid was doing it on purpose (for kicks I suppose, I didn't really know him) and he pushed me into the urinal. It gave me a fright but I handled it and yelled at him to get lost. I remember being disgusted at the thought of getting pee on my hands while trying to stop myself ending up pushed up against the urinal wall.<br />Anyway, I tried to go again and just as I was letting go the kid ran back in and did it all again! This really annoyed me of course but because it reminded me of my father I became a little intimidated so I used the stall to finish my pee.<br />After that I just started using the stall all the time. Years go by and at some stage I realised I could no longer pee in front of others (although I can do #2's just fine). I have suffered all the pain and humiliation you can think of. At the age of 25 I became so sensitive that for some months I couldn't even go at home when alone!! My head would fill with negative thoughts and it would take several attempts before I could finally relieve myself. I even became suicidal about it because I knew I was limiting my whole life and considered myself the biggest wimp on earth for my inability to just go pee!<br />I've been to a phobic clinic. No cure there but like therapy I no longer feel so bad about my issue which is at least life-saving. I've tried hypno-therapy which was mildly effective but nowhere near a cure. I've spent years since just living with it.<br />Over the past 6 years I've tried my own version graduated whatchamacallit. It has worked to a point. I can now pee in front of my sister and 3 friends (usually).<br />It's been way too slow going and I'm finally getting fed up with the living with it.<br />I will go to my doctor next and ask for a referral to a CBT therapist.<br />I might buy a book about it as well so I can use it as my 'bible'.<br />I turned 46 last month. If you are young and have this problem, don't wait as long as I have to tackle it head on. GET HELP NOW! and not necessarily here. Do what works for you but DO SOMETHING.Gilbonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20821605.post-48773036298103118812009-01-14T02:51:00.000-08:002009-01-14T02:51:00.000-08:00I suffered this condition since about the age of 9...I suffered this condition since about the age of 9.The only thing that has helped me is the breath holding technique.It does work. Its best to use in the stalls.Definately helps on airplanes,trains or friends houses etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20821605.post-58895841529344177272008-03-22T23:37:00.000-07:002008-03-22T23:37:00.000-07:00Thanks for the words of wisdom. I just got back fr...Thanks for the words of wisdom. I just got back from drinking with a buddy and tried twice to go in the bathroom.<BR/><BR/>The first time, empty bathroom, I choice the wall stall and could not relax, just kept waiting for someone to come in. Finally gave up when someone did come in.<BR/><BR/>The next attempt, pretty intense by now, 4 beers and I was dying. Went into the stall to sit down. Usually a fail safe, but this time I felt rushed. My buddy didn't know about this problem so I started feeling that pressure of not taking too long. Oh well, I gave up again.<BR/><BR/>By this time I ended the beer drinking festivity, saying I had to run home to get some work done. Almost passed out before I finally got home.<BR/><BR/>What a pain this problem is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com